Yellow Lights (pre-flirts) are tough. For those unfamiliar, these are the signals you flash to another party to let them know they can ~proceed with caution~. These are not the Stop (them) Drop (a borderline insult) and Roll (their friends out of the picture) moves that you’d use in bars. Yellow Lights are meant to be subtle and quick but are by no means straight forward. I’d know— I’ve tried a couple of different approaches, all with low level results. Today though, I just may have found a winner to share with y’all. But like any good lesson, we’ll to have to start with a little bit of history:
It all started with The Elevator. This move involves casting an obvious look at the persons shoes, moving up to make brief eye contact, and then moving back down to their shoes. People hate this one the most— Something about not being not being meat or something. It’s the least inviting so you’ll catch no bee’s with this, honey.
Later I tried something called The Umphhhhpire. Here, you get right up close to somebody and umpgghhhhhhhh at them and jerk your head back. Bears seem to like this (play ball!), while everybody else found it a bit aggressive (Strike!) Also doing that noise makes your nostrils do something real rabiesish, tbh.
Up until most recently I was just chucking The Boywinkle, which is an aggressive wink and half smile. The wink is a little too Mizunderstood tho. It started out as a “gotcha” look, but is now seen by strangers as more of a”gotcha credit card” kinda thing. As expected, my polling results show that people don’t trust winkers. They’re a lil too fast and loose, if you will.
So here it is, a Yellow Light so simple I can’t believe I haven’t used it until today: The lil Rascal. It’s easy too. Wait until your contact is glancing at your face and then flutter your brows thrice and look away. Up.Up.Up. If they’re looking in your general direction but not at your face, do it anyways so he catches your brow from the corner of his eye. I’m sure this is funny (although it remains untested). The most successful piece here is that fluttering your brows isn’t overly sexual, It’s not too aggressive and doesn’t make people feel violated, judged or creeped out. It’s just cute and sure to get you noticed.